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About jeremypickwell

I am the founding and senior pastor of Alinea Church in Murfreesboro, TN.


I was recently listening to a Seth Godin episode called “Ignore the Sunk Costs” from his Akimbo podcast. In the middle of it he talks about The Dip. It is a tricky segment of life where we have the choice of quitting or sticking it out. In fact he wrote an entire book on the subject (another book I get to consume).

The premise is this. Quitting is sometimes good. Quitting is sometimes bad. That is what makes quitting a difficult decision. It is emotional. There is investment. There is sunk costs that hold us back from quitting something we’ve poured our lives into.

One point he makes is that the best organizations are great quitters. They know the things they need to lay down in order to embrace the things that will make them profitable. He mentions GE spinning off its home appliance division in order to pursue other ventures.

Another point is that sometimes you are in the dip, and you need to NOT QUIT. You need to push through to the other side because you are close to breakthrough. I haven’t read the book yet, but I believe that is the premise of “Don’t Quit in the Dip.”

Here is the deal: It isn’t black and white. It is messy. What we need to do is acknowledge and accept that it’s messy and consider our emotions. Emotions are why we are such crappy decision-makers. In his book “Thinking Fast and Slow,” Kahneman explained thoroughly that the economics of decision-making (black and white) get’s overshadowed all the time by the emotions of decision-making (very very grey).

It would behoove us to take this into account. No, sticking it out and persevering is NOT always the best answer (read “Necessary Endings“). And at the same time, we too often quite right before the breakthrough.

The answer to this conundrum is complex. All of the books mentioned help us navigate the maze of decisions with helpful tools. The first step, however, is to recognize the complexity of the dip, embrace it, and not make a knee-jerk decision.

Little By Little

We live in a world that is obsessed with the big splash. As a church planter, I am keenly aware that churches have succeeded in making a big splash and growing quickly.

I don’t know if that will happen for us. Would it be nice? Yes. But I wouldn’t want to do it if we were poor at shepherding the people God gave us.

Ray Ortlund is the founding pastor of Emmanuel Nashville. It took that church 2 years to see 150 in attendance. That isn’t explosive. But it is faithful. Now they reach hundreds in the area, are seen as a very influential in the region, and Ray Ortlund is seen as a father-figure to many church planters.

The lesson is do what God called you to do. Work at it little by little. And let God work on His timetable.

Opinions Are Like….

Social media is great. It allows people to connect and debate and spread their opinions.

Social media is awful. It allows people to seclude and argue and spread their opinions.

The thing I have realized is I am much more healthier mentally if I’m not digesting people that make me angry. The downside of that is that I never get to interact with people who think differently than me. That is a problem.

This problem lies in the fact that social media allows people to lob their opinions without repercussions. Here is my thesis: Everyone has an opinion. But when they aren’t held accountable for their opinions, they continue to spew bad opinions.

If you got get advice from someone, and they say “Go buy a new truck with a $900 payment!” You do this, and realize it was a mistake. You probably won’t go back to the person with the bad advice. Not so with the “online voices.” We keep going back to them. Why?

I see one guy who is a sports announcer on social media. He is always wrong – confidently. He’s like a broken clock though – right twice a day. His audience continues to grow, though. Why? Because he is never held accountable for the views he says that are wrong. He is rewarded for his outlandishness. It’s like watching a train-wreck – you can’t turn away and, in turn, they get paid for the clicks.

Social media won’t improve until we stop giving people an audience that are continually wrong. So what they are right twice a year? Why give them a voice into our psyche when they are wrong so often?

I said this to someone today, “In today’s society, we have too many couch PhDs.” What I mean by that is the internet and social media give too many people the platform to speak as an authority without the credentials or training of an authority.

Allow people who have wisdom to challenge your thinking. Discard the voices that are just loud for the sake of being loud.

A Paradigm Shift

Yesterday I taught on the story of Nicodemus meeting Jesus during the night. The famous verse we get from this story is John 3:16.

One thing I realized in teaching this passage is that Nicodemus knew all of the prophecies of Jesus. He knew Isaiah’s suffering servant. He knew the prophecy from Genesis “You will strike his heal but he will crush your head.” Listening to Jesus explain being “born again.” Must have been so confusing and yet exciting at the same time.

However, what Jesus was asking Nicodemus to do was leave all he knew behind to be true. Nicodemus was a Pharisee. He was a Jewish leader. He was influential. So publicly acknowledging he believed Jesus was the Christ would have upended the life he knew.

I wonder what happened of Nicodemus. We know he accompanied Joseph of Arimathea to wrap Jesus’ body in the tomb. Which tells us that Nicodemus wasn’t alone in his fear of the ruling religious leaders. But it also tells us he wasn’t alone.

What Jesus asks us to do daily often bucks against all we know to be true. Our acknowledgement of him is not popular among many circles. Living out the spirit-filled life isn’t popular among many religious leaders, who’d rather us be abrasive and mean-spirited. It isn’t popular among the unbelieving who’d rather us believe nothing except what they are feeding us.

The point is this – following Jesus is disruptive. But being born again is necessary to see “the kingdom of God.” Whenever we feel alone in this journey, remember there is a Joseph of Arimathea who is nervous about this too. Let us link up arms “the few” and love like Christ loved despite the repercussions.

Alinea Church – It’s Getting Real

When God asked Jennifer and I to do this, I thought I was crazy… I thought God was crazy. But He isn’t, and neither am I.

Last week over our dining room table, Jackie, someone we met over breakfast at a local diner, told us, with tears in her eyes, “I prayed you here.”

“I prayed you here”


That blew my mind. That God would use us and Alinea Church, to answer this person’s prayer. She prayed for a church home. She prayed for a place her husband and four kids could get involved. She prayed for authentic community. She prayed for a place where she could understand her faith better and how she was to live it out. Now we are here!

June is a big month for us. We begin the hard work of training our team for launch Sunday (August 8th). We finalize a lot of our systems we’ll need to disciple and care for people well. We also begin the big task of purchasing everything that we’ll need – and what a big task that is!!

There are 3 ways you can help us and join us in this mission:

Pray. We know that God is in this and we pray that God will send us workers for the harvest! We pray for a fresh outpouring of His Spirit on our church. We also pray for God’s wisdom and provision!

Share. Do you know someone in Middle Tennessee that needs a good home church? Let them know about us! We would love to welcome them with open arms!

Give. I am unashamed, now, to ask people to give to this. Why? Because I know God is behind it and he’ll use people just like you to fund it. We haven’t launched yet. It will take a lot of people who will never call this place home getting behind this financially. June is a critical month as most of our capital expenses will occur over the next 30 days. There are 2 primary ways you can give:

  • You can give at – Would you consider setting up a recurring gift for the next 12 months? This is a crucial time for us and the church!

Thank you for your prayers and your support. They mean more than you could ever imagine!


One Last Excursion

On June 5th of last year, we as a family set out on a great adventure only few get to experience.  Setting out with a 5th wheel and a dream, we visited thirteen of our country’s National Parks, venturing as far west as Yosemite and ending in our backyard at Shenandoah National Park.  It is something we will never forget and we talk about regularly.


This morning we had a sad realization.  Our American The Beautiful Pass expires tomorrow May 31st.  So we thought, why not one more adventure on the pass that brought us so much excitement?!?  So off we went on one more hurrah!

With one more year under their belt, the boys are much faster hikers, yet still haven’t gotten the groaning under control.  But there is much more pep in their step.  And I did notice my elbow didn’t hurt as it used to.  In the past it felt as if I was hyperextending it dragging Weston along.

White Oak Canyon Falls was are adventure of choice, just across from the southern entrance to Skyland Campground between milepost 42 & 43.


Fortunately the weather held and we enjoyed an amazing hike through the forest.  I absolutely love the smell, the coolness of the woods, and the sound of the waters.  More importantly, I love seeing the boys experience it as well.  I hope they choose the mountains over the tv or Xbox.

I am reminded how brief their childhood is and how fast they grow up.  I want to capture every moment I can.  Look at what a difference a year makes!



Learnings from ARC – Pt 3

The most profound session I attended at ARC 2016 in Birmingham was on Tuesday April 19th.  Pastor Chris Hodges unveiled some things in scripture that I have never seen before and it was mind blowing.

Pastor Daniel, prior to entering the new year, asked the staff to pray and ask God what one word would be our theme for 2016.  Pastor’s word was ‘Increase.’  There were all sorts of words.  ‘Confidence,’ ‘Freedom,’ ‘Leadership.’  I prayed for a couple of weeks and the word I couldn’t shake from my mind was ‘Fruitfulness.’  I had my word but admittedly had know idea what that meant.  Will my finances be fruitful?  Will my ministry be fruitful?  Will my spiritual life be fruitful?  Will our family be fruitful!?!?!?!?!?!?!?  Who knows!  But I knew I couldn’t do the same things in 2016 that I did in 2015 and experience this new reality.  Things needed to change.  Patterns needed to shift.  Thoughts needed to be wrestled to the ground and washed with God’s truth.  I knew the word, but had no idea how to achieve the word… until Tuesday night.

Pastor Chris Hodges spoke on fruitfulness.  Isn’t that like God?!?  But he came at it from an angle I wouldn’t have imagined.  “God requires intimacy in order for things to multiply,” he said.  “Satan’s goal is to get between  you and others to stop intimacy.”

There was much more to his message, but that was the crux.  And there I had what I thought was the key to unlocking God’s word for me in 2016.  I needed to develop true intimacy with fellow believers – transparency in safe groups of people.  It is only in exposing ourselves to those who care about us and allowing the same in return, that we are able to grow, develop, and become all that God wants us to be.

I think sometimes we feel that we should be adult enough to figure things out on our own.  I think I should be self-sufficient, only needing my relationship with God to make it through the world.  It sounds like a good principle.  “Jesus is all I need.”  But that really isn’t true.  If that was the case, then we does the Holy Spirit give Spiritual Gifts in order to EDIFY (build up) the church.  Why would God see fit to specifically name a Spiritual Gift of EXHORTATION (to speak to, encourage).  Why would God identify everything he created in Genesis 1 as ‘GOOD’ but say that man being alone in Genesis 2 was ‘NOT GOOD.’  Creation was in a ‘NOT GOOD'(Gen 2:18) state until woman came along (COME ON WOMEN!)  It is because God has created us to have relationships.  We need each other.  NEED.  It is how God has created us.  “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another – and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” Hebrews 10:24,25.

Before ARC I had an imbalanced equation.  ? + ? = Fruitfulness.  I didn’t realize it at the time.  But after ARC I now see the full picture  RELATIONSHIPS + INTIMACY = FRUITFULNESS.  I have relationships.  Now I know I need to put more of myself into them.  Prior, my posture was to simply relate, holding back the real me, the real struggles, the real self.  But that is what is keeping me from true fruitfulness.  Maybe that is the same for you.  Do you have a safe place where you can be you, ask questions, allow others to speak into your life, and you do the same in return?  We were never meant to live this life alone.  NEVER.

Learnings from ARC – Pt 2

If you missed what ARC is, take a few moments and read this post.

Many times when you listen to a message you end up walking away with only one point.  And many times that one point isn’t necessarily the crux of the message the speaker wanted you to grasp.  However, I think that is the role of the Holy Spirit – to make things pop out at you.

On Tuesday, we got to hear from Pastor Rick Bezet, Senior Pastor of New Life Church, a multi-site church in Arkansas.  He spoke on some key principles in doing ministry well.

  1. Don’t forget about the hurting world.
  2. Keep the Lord first.
  3. Be very wise with your pace.
  4. Be quick to forgive.
  5. Be not afraid.

Great points all.  But the one quote that has stuck with me since was some advice from his mentor, Pastor Larry Stockstill, Senior Pastor of Bethany Church in Louisiana.

“Pray in the morning until joy hits your heart.  Never tackle the duties of the church until you have met with the Lord.”  I’m not sure why (maybe because it is convicting), but that has stuck with me ever since I heard it.  And it speaks to an overall narrative I’ve been working through for the past several months – I WANT MORE OF GOD.  Pastor Daniel asks us, “When people spend time with you, who do they get?”  Who do people get when they get me?  I’m not entirely sure.  But I do know I want them to get God.  I want there to be such a presence of Jesus in my life that it’s blinding.  And the only way to do that is that “He must increase, but I must decrease.”

One of the ways I want to accomplish this is that first time in the morning with God.  I love that imagery.  “Pray until…”  It is much like Jacob who “wrestled until…”  It is the posture that God has something good to give us, namely Himself, and we won’t relent until we have received it.  That is what I want.

Learnings from ARC

Last week several of our staff had the privilege of attending the ARC Conference at Church of the Highlands in Birgmingham, AL.  ARC stands for the Association of Related Churches.  Its primary goal is to plant healthy, life-giving churches.  They are one of the best, if not the best, organizations that equips, trains, funds, and launches new churches across America and even the globe.  That is why Lifepoint loves contributing to this amazing organization!  They say that the ARC Conference is the largest family reunion in the country.  It does feel like that.  I wanted to take a few posts that exceed 140 characters and let you in on what I learned during my 3 days.

During the day we had the opportunity to attend breakouts, smaller gatherings of people digging into a specific topic we face in the church.  It could be how to find a healthy rhythm as a Pastor.  How to plan a service.  How to better identify and develop leaders.  There were dozens to choose from.

My first breakout (APP sessions they were called) was “5 Weekly Habits to Build the Family You Want.”  I don’t know about you, but I want a healthy family.  I was ‘husband’ before I was an Executive Pastor.  I’ll be a dad after I retire.  So having a healthy family is super important to me.  One thing I learned was Healthy habits lead to legacy lives.  Kirby Anderson ( led the session with his wife Gail.  They have 5 children, one of which is going to ARC training to plant a church.  Not a bad legacy!

The things he said were simple.  Stupid simple as a matter of fact.  “I know this” kind of habits.  But why don’t we do them?  Why do we allow life to create complexity in our lives.  One thing we try to do as a church as we grow larger is stay simple.  We believe this leads to a more focused and healthier church.  Why not that for our families?  What would happen if we implemented SIMPLY habits each week – Habits like, talk with your spouse, eat together as a family, date your spouse.  It is a reminder that the most important things in our lives our not the glowing orbs in our hands – it is the relationships around us (Wow did I learn some amazing things about relationships I’ll share on a later post – MIND BLOWING).

Several of the habits we do well with.  A majority of the time we eat a meal together once a day.  We do fun stuff together as a family.  But some of the things I need to shore up.  I need to spend more one-on-one time with the boys.  If you have 6 kids just rotate once a week.  It is doable!  I need to spend more uninterrupted time with Jennifer.  I need to put the phone down more (don’t we all).  Overall it was a great reminder to focus on the simple things and create simple habits within our daily lives that create a routine of interaction.  I only have once chance to raise these boys and I want to get it right!

Guest Interview – Weston Liam Pickwell, Age 6

I’m interested to see how this interview goes.  If my hunch is correct, you’ll see a clear dichotomy between Wyatt, and my very verbose 6 year old.  Hope my fingers can keep up.

Weston, would you like to tell me a little bit about your trip?

Hmmmm….. well, I liked seeing the bears.  Um…. I liked seeing the sequoias, the tall trees, and the Grizzly Giant.  I liked Yellowstone because I liked the campground, and it was clean, and I liked the geysers, fumaroles, and mudpots.  Um…. I liked staying in a camper. Um… and…umm… well… I liked…. seeeeing the faces of Mt. Rushmore.


What did you think about all of the driving we had to do?

Um…..  It was fun when we got to watch movies and play on our iPods.  And um… we liked um…. well I liked seeing a whole bunch of flags on Mount Rushmore.  About riding in the truck…  Oh yeah…. well I did like going to McDonalds one time, I think… and um… we got a toy Minion.

What was your least favorite part about riding in the truck?

I think it was waiting 15-20 minutes for iPods.  Why did you have to wait?  We were acting crazy.

Was there was there anything fun about driving that far?

I already told you!  The iPods!

Do you have any thoughts about the scenery you saw?

Um… it was pretty, but we have no idea if way out there there are more sequoias.  The scenery was high and pretty.  And um… I think I saw a canyon with a road in the middle with rocks in it that looked like they were from Lion King.  I think it was in Arches.


What did you think about Yosemite?

It was interesting with all of the squirrels.  They wanted to get fed so they got just like one inch away.  Well, they walked up to a lady and she shot them with a water bottle.  Then another squirrel came.  We weren’t supposed to feed the squirrels or they could get relocated somewhere else or killed.  I think in the Badlands, what we saw was a chipmunk.


Tell me about your experience in Zion NP.  How was that?

I think it was quite burning up in there but it was a little fun.  We stayed at Zion River Resort and it was clean and I think it had a pool.  We even had a ‘smores’agbord.  And we swam in the virgin river.  And we even hiked the narrows.  What was that like?  Well, it was a little tricky.  We went like 5 miles through water, like, kinda a current, like tiny water falls that made the current.  Well, there was patches of land that we could go on.  We ate cold pizza for lunch and cookies.

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What was your top 5 National Parks?

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What were your 5 top experiences?

1. See the giant sequoias and the Grizzly Giant


2. Seeing the geysers and hot springs


3. Swimming in the Virgin River


4. The Jeep Ride in Moab


5. The ATV in the hail storm

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Why don’t you tell everyone what it is like to live in a camper for 6 weeks.

Well, when you live it in theres not much room.  For the kids, they can play in their beds with stuffed animals and they can come to life.  When you live in a camper on a trip, you have to drive like 100 miles or something to get to your campground.  And it is like 50 miles to get to a state.  And if you are going to skip a state, you have to drive 1000 miles, maybe.  I liked playing the Ranger game with Wyatt.

What was your favorite state?

Wyoming because we got to go to a cowboy thing.



Anything you would like to add?

Yeah, there was this Steamboat Geyser in Yellowstone and the highest it exploded was like 300 feet.  We didn’t get to see it, but it was the highest.  That’s all!