Crud. And I didn’t get to go on another cruise.
Leadership is Coaching
I learned a valuable lesson watching the Olympics. I don't care how many talented, motivated, Type-A, Maxwell protege's you have on your team, you still need to call time-outs and coach.
Think about it. The 'Redeem-Team', the men's Volleyball Team, the women's Volleyball Team – they all have the best of the best in their sport. Koby knows how to play, how to pass, how to dunk (body doesn't he). He's probably watched more film of Jordan than we can imgagine. He knows his opponents. He understands the philosophy of coach K. He's played with these guys for 3 years getting ready for the Olympics. Same with all of the other players in different sports – volleyball, softball, etc.
But alas! Coach K has to call a time out! What does this mean? Well let's look at what it doesn't mean:
- It doesn't mean that Coach K must have screwed up somewhere in his leadership because the team is losing focus.
- It doesn't mean the players are inempt.
- It doesn't mean the team is in trouble, per se.
- It doesn't mean the wrong players were picked.
- It doesn't even mean that the players are 'on the wrong seat on the bus.'
What does it mean exactly? It means that the coach is doing his job – and the players are doing theirs. You see, the players get so into the match, the battle if you will, that they aren't able to see the forest for the trees. But Coach K – he has removed himself from the battle field so that he can see the entire game. He can make adjustments when needed.
What is the correlation? Don't ever think you can hire the best of the best and then let them just go. Even the best need coaching. Even the best need re-direction. Even the best laid plans need adjusting. So call time-outs. Refocus. Never-ever think that a timeout, or the need for coaching is a refelction on the people you've hired or recruited, or even a reflection on yourself. It simply means your doing what your supposed to be doing and they're doing what their supposed to be doing.
Sure Koby knows he's supposed to cut off the lane. But the coach has a different perspect and is able to communicate that in a better way. So coach don't coast.
Yum
IVF Update
Firstly, thank you for praying! Lots to update you on.
Wednesday we woke up and dropped off Wyatt at Pastor Daniel and Tammie's; and off we went. Well, first I had… HAD to get myself a Rockstar Roasted…yum. And good thing I did! A mile down the road at a red light I started complaining about how somebody's car was smelling up the road. Jennifer saw smoke coming out from under our hood and said, "I think it's us!" Sure enough, we blew our power stearing pump hose.
Now I'm on the phone to Pastor Daniel and the insurance company and the fertility clinic. The insurance company arranged a tow, and Tammie and Pastor met us with one of their cars. All in all we ended up there right on time, but admitedly irked. I called my dad to start praying all this crap away from us!
So we went in and to make a long story short, the fluid was gone! Praise God! We were so excited! I think we were really frustrated that we didn't get to see the embryos last time. So now they are safely in Jennifer belly. The Doc even said he was glad we waited till day 5, because one of the embryos didn't look as good as they thought it would. So they picked 2 different ones. All in all they transferred 2 embryos and froze 3. So there's the potential we could end up with 6 kids including Wyatt!
Please keep praying. We are going try to enjoy this pregnancy. Last time we were really uptight. Imagine that…the Pickwells uptight. We'll go Sept 15 for a blood test to see if we're pregnant. Then 2 weeks after that, they'll do an ultrasound to see how many! Lots of things still have to go right. But I believe God is going to battle for us. Thank you all! Oh…and here is a peak at the 2 new arrivals.
IVF Update
Saturday we received a phone call that 11 eggs fertilized. To give you a comparison, last time we had 23 eggs, 11 fertilized, and 3 survived – 2 were transferred and 1 was cryopreserved.
Monday we got the call that all was a go. We started our drive to Charlottesville and Jennifer gladly took her Valum. It helps her body relax for the transfer. We were waiting in the office and our nurse came out to give us some unexpected news. 3 more fertilized! 14 total. So at this point we were really feeling good.
They got Jennifer ready and rolled us into transfer room. For some reason they have it really dark in there. It's dimly lit with a monitor in the corner so we can see the embryos. The Doc came in and started doing an ultrasound and then gave us some bad news. For some reason there was fluid where there wasn't supposed to be fluid. And that would be toxic to the embryos. Translation – no transfer. We were crushed. I was ticked. Why does everything have to be so difficult for us?
So the verdict is we have to wait till tomorrow and pray the fluid is gone. If they still see the fluid tomorrow, we'll have to freeze the embryos and wait till another time. We really don't feel good about that because we were only able to freeze one last time and it didn't make the thaw.
So here is what everybody needs to do.
- Pray that the embryos continue to thrive.
- Pray that the fluid goes away by tomorrow.
- Pray that the transfer happens tomorrow.
- Pray that we have something to freeze.
- Pray that we in 10 months we have a baby because of all of this.
Thank you!
IVF Update
Went for Egg Retrieval today. 23 was the count. We'll find out tomorrow how many are fertilizing like they should.
Jennifer took the day off, but I had to talk her into it. The nurse found out that she was planning on working after having anesthesia and insisted she stay home.
Thank you for your prayers!
PCI Arrives!
Go here. Too much fun!
Busy Weekend
Oh boy…
- Friday 7:45AM – Egg Retrival
- Friday 1:00PM – Jennifer actually goes to work. She's stubborn.
- Friday 2:30PM – PCI guys get here and we start retrofitting the trailers.
- Saturday 10:30 – 1:30PM – Gas Buy-Down.
- Saturday 2:30 – 7:00PM – Integration of our stuff and PCI cases.
- Sunday 6:30AM – Training and unloading of trailers.
- Monday AM? – Implant day.
- Monday – Wednesday – Jennifer is ordered to bed-rest. Translation, "Jeremy! Will you bring me something to drink?"
- Tuesday – Mom flies out.
Not to mention we are trying to hunt down a 3rd trailer. Anybody selling one?
IVF Update
Ok….now we're getting somewhere. As I stated last time, we've been on shots since August 17th. Then recently we began a 2nd drug called Ganirelix. Which is supposed to keep the eggs in place. Don't understand that, but anyway… It has been slow going. Frustrating actually. Every time Jennifer would go to the Dr. they'd say, "Still not big enough (the eggs), so maybe another day or two of drugs." Translation for us: "$$$$ $$ $$$$ $". Thanks Doc.
But yesterday we had a nice surprise. Everything is ready! Last night we took what is called a 'trigger drug'. I think it has something to do with helping the eggs mature. Today is a free day…no drugs. Then tomorrow morning we go for egg retrieval. It is actually minor surgery. They put Jennifer under and everything. By the time we leave we'll know how many of the eggs are fertilizing like they should. Monday morning we'll get a phone call telling us either to come in, or that they are going to wait till Wednesday. They generally implant either 3 day or 5 day old embryos.
Please pray for us. This is going to be a busy weekend for us (another post). Thank you all!
IVF Update
Here is an in depth update on how we are progressing. Jennifer began her shots on Sunday. These shots cost about a million dollars a piece. Not really, but close. An interesting twist to the whole thing is that we were in NYC for our anniversary, and one drug in particular – hCG – has to be refrigerated. So when we were in between hotels, we had to pack it on ice.
Anyhow, the whole process goes like this. We have a box of Gonal-F. This is the million dollar box. We mix up the solution included, draw out a certain amount, put the cap on. Then we use a separate needle to pull out the hCG. THEN, we use a 3rd needle to combine the other 2. We simply twist off the needle, shoot the other 2 into it, then put on a new needle. So at the end of one shot we throw away 3 syrnges with needles, plus an extra needle. Sheesh! Our hotel maid probably thought we're druggies. And to make things more fun, we have to do this at the same time every night.
Jennifer went today and everything is progressing very slowly. It looks like Sunday she'll go back to get another check up. Which isn't easy because our Dr. is in Charlottesville – we're in F'burg. Translation: 1.5 hrs each way.
And the paperwork! It is worse than buying a house – no exageration! What do they do if one of us dies? What do they do if both of us die? What do they do if they can't find the person we donate the embryos to? What, what, what? They think of every possible, if even impossible, scenario they can think of.
So there is the latest. You'll know when we know when everything else takes place. Please keep us in your prayers!
